There is one large problem with being Nice: when you’re single at the same time. If you’re a nice person and single, you can’t talk to people with them trying to think of someone they can set you up with because, well, you’re nice.
I mean, who has never used that phrase when trying to set you up. That is the go-to description when a set-up is trying to happen.
And then there is the fact you can never talk to the opposite sex, because if you’re nice to them, then you must be flirting with them.
Why can’t you just be nice?
Because I’m a nice girl and out going, I’ve given up being friends with guys, because since I hit the swan stage* of life almost ever guy I was “just friends” with has eventually wanted more.
And then when you start telling people this they start encouraging you to the contrary of your instincts. You see I know myself well enough to know when a guy is strong enough to keep up with me, and so far there have been very few I thought would be able to and even they have never made a move. And because of this I don’t settle. I know what I want and I’ve never been the girl for trial and error, which seems to be the philosophy of our culture, so I hate when people try to talk me into guys that are definitively not for me.
So what’s the solution? The only one I can come up with is to dress ugly and hit people with a big stick with nails jutting out of it.
But then that hardly the nice thing to do, is it?
*I was totally an ugly duckling growing up. I didn’t hit my grown up stretch until college. And even then I still didn’t feel like a grown up till a couple years ago, and even that’s negotiable.
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